As a bit of a back story here, around 2017, I got turned onto findom. This is financial domination...

As a bit of a back story here, around 2017, I got turned onto findom. This is financial domination, for those who don’t know it. It’s basically paying girls for nothing lmao. Sometimes they are random girls, or sometimes they are “doms” found on twitter typically. They can be mean and demand money, nice and ask for money, ask for gifts, force me to do tasks, etc. I really fell in love with it tho. That’s its own problem really, but it was a pretty downward spiral from there. I wasted a lot of money over the next three years, like everything I made that was expendable. I spent barely anything on myself, besides my one hobby. (Videogames, specifically PS4)

In Nov 2019, I asked a girl on fb, that I thought was really cute, if she was interested in having a findom relationship. She’s not from my state, and is two year older than me. (She is west coast, I’m east) We also had no mutuals or anything. I had to explain all of findom to her tho. This was just some random girl, never had even heard of it before. She ended up saying yes, and we started a dom/sub relationship for about 8 months. It was the most serious one I ever had. I spent a few thousand dollars on her over those months, and bought her lots of gifts. Even got her a PS4 and some games so we could play together. (We never played together until around Nov 2020)

Fast forward to July of last year, and I was in a reall bad spot financially. I ended up telling her I was in a car crash, just to kind of call off our findom relationship. I was scared to be honest, of telling her the real reason, idk. But we ended up continuing to talk after that. It was never anything too heavy, or too often, just checking up on each other a lot or something. She is a very bad texter desu.
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She admits this, but can go days without texting back, and just ignores certain messages. She also commonly says we should do something (lik play a game) and then just stops replying. I did continue to buy her dinner after our relationship ended and have it delivered to her every so often, but that was it. (At one point she mentioned that this was like going on dates with me, and it felt good to get over those first few awkward dates people have)

Fast forward again to Decemeber of 2020, I found out I was going to a seminar out by her in late March possibly. We talked about maybe meeting up, but the seminar was cancelled. We kept talking about meeting tho, and now have locked in a little vacation for a week, just the two of us. She’ll be flying, and I’ll be driving there. This is happening beginning of March. She did buy her own plane ticket, but I bought all the rooms among other stuff and am now in over a thousand for the trip.

I guess I’m just worried, is there any chance for me at all? Am I wasting my time? I’ve grown to care for her dearly, but it’s so hard to gauge this time of stuff for me, especially with how unresponsive she is sometimes. (2/2)

Findom must be the most pathetic fetish out there. I hope you get better soon OP, this is not a healthy view of relationships between men and women

May God have mercy on you

The girl surely doesn't. You pathetic subhuman. You care for her but she doesn't care for you. She is merely stringing you along. What can you expect? You offered to be free money.

I care for you. Only briefly and I will soon forget about you. But I care enough for you to tell you you're being a massive faggot, that some other guy is fucking her hard when you're putting money into her account, and you need to wake the fuck up, ghost her, and value yourself, your time, and your money infinitely more.

I don't even know what to say OP.

Just act... Natural when you meet? Don't have high expectations, just roll with it, laugh. She liked you just for the money though? But w.e. it's your life

You wasted so much of your time and money already, and the whole relationship was built on you paying her. What are you expecting to happen? Cut it off NOW.

Please lord of lord and king of kings, set this young man on the right path to not be pathetic and make a family and name for himself. Let him realize that the pursuit of vanity is a shallow endeavor that he will not profit spiritually from.

Amen

Yes I agree. I have a real problem. I’ve tried helping myself, but it’s hard.

Thank you. I know I offered, but I felt we built something more. I know for a fact she is not dating right now though. I have tried stopping findom all together, but it’s very hard for me.

I will try and act natural. She did like me for my money, but we did have something more personal beyond that. Or so I felt.

I have no clue what to expect, maybe a real relationship? She was originally from my side of the States. Maybe she could move back, I have no clue.
Thank you.

Thank you.

You're paying her for a vacation. What's wrong with that?
Lots of degen guys pay a slew of cheap sexworkers just to get aids. You're getting prepaid faux monogamy and a kink. What more do you think your money can buy?