Does anyone here/has anyone here ever suffered from Retroactive Jealousy? Not being able to get over your partner's sexual/emotional past?
GF was with 11 people before me, makes me feel sick. I've only been with 5 people including her. Just wish we were at the same level?
Is there hope for me to beat this? Feels like fucking torture at the moment.
When someone's wife cheats on them/leaves them for someone else, who fucked her first? The first husband. Is the guy who's fucking her now worried about that? Fuck no. She chose him over the last guy. You're the better one, if you weren't she wouldn't be with you, shed be with either a past boyfriebd or someone else. As long as she's loyal to you, you're good
Yes I suffer from this very badly. I was with someone who had a lot more than you even.
However, do not give in to people saying it's your fault. Everyone is promoting degeneracy and values that destroy our society and they tell that WE are at fault because we are jealous about past partners?
Don't try to change yourself, find someone that accepts they are disgusting for their past, like I did for a while, or find someone who was with no one.
But please don't think it's your fault and that you have to change.
This, only incels/virgins like get hung up on the past. Be a chad for once OP and remember how you probably didn't care when you were first slamming her.
You are falling for the degeneracy they promote, congrats. I'm neither an incel nor virgin, even if that would make stuff easier for you.
It's not his fault for being more aware of life than you sheep.
OP this guy is giving you seriously toxic advice. If this shit really mattered, what do you think you would do at age 35 when literally everyone is fucking each other who is single? You think at 35 you'll find an innocent pure girl? Not unless you're a fucking pedo.
At 35, a man reaches peak attractiveness. A girl reaches peak attractiveness by 18. A 35 year old man who dates a 35 year old woman is a complete loser.
I'm not even talking about "pure", I told you I'm not an incel... I'm talking about a woman that agrees with you that you are not at fault for having retroactive jealousy. Someone that agrees she was disgusting in her past, that is different. There are plenty of women out there that only see how they got tricked into their degeneracy when they are older.
And that is how you can overcome it eventually, that's how I did. By having a partner that agrees with me.
>shes been with 11
>been with only 5
dude, the gap is very insubstantial
i think you need to rationalize the situation a little bit
she has to come to terms with you running your hands all over, kissing and tasting, holding FOUR other people close, your flesh becoming one. she has to think about you giving your body to someone other than her in the most intimate terms. the thought of someone else making your face red, making you moan and release yourself in an intensely vulnerable way with another person who isnt her. how could she ever overcome you having sex with FOUR whole people?
i dont blame you for feeling icky. thats perfectly normal and natural. you SHOULDNT like the thought of her fucking other people if youre in a monogamous relationship, id be concerned if you werent bothered by thinking about other people fucking her. but thats the good thing. you dont HAVE to think about it. shes also had wildly horrendous diahrrea. you cant change this fact. but it doesnt change that you love her. dwell on the good things, accept the past and distinguish it from the present, and dont expect yourself to come around on icky details, but come around on her. shes your love, so love her
OP, my partner is my first (I’m talking like first kiss first) and he’s been with literally 80 females and dated 7 of them. It kills me when I think about it but at the end of the day I love them more than anything. You can only focus on the future and be happy. Plus you were with five people any way so it’s not that big of a difference.