Does anyone here/has anyone here ever suffered from Retroactive Jealousy? Not being able to get over your partner's sexual/emotional past?
GF was with 11 people before me, makes me feel sick. I've only been with 5 people including her. Just wish we were at the same level?
Is there hope for me to beat this? Feels like fucking torture at the moment.
When someone's wife cheats on them/leaves them for someone else, who fucked her first? The first husband. Is the guy who's fucking her now worried about that? Fuck no. She chose him over the last guy. You're the better one, if you weren't she wouldn't be with you, shed be with either a past boyfriebd or someone else. As long as she's loyal to you, you're good
Yes I suffer from this very badly. I was with someone who had a lot more than you even.
However, do not give in to people saying it's your fault. Everyone is promoting degeneracy and values that destroy our society and they tell that WE are at fault because we are jealous about past partners?
Don't try to change yourself, find someone that accepts they are disgusting for their past, like I did for a while, or find someone who was with no one.
But please don't think it's your fault and that you have to change.
This, only incels/virgins like get hung up on the past. Be a chad for once OP and remember how you probably didn't care when you were first slamming her.
You are falling for the degeneracy they promote, congrats. I'm neither an incel nor virgin, even if that would make stuff easier for you.
It's not his fault for being more aware of life than you sheep.
OP this guy is giving you seriously toxic advice. If this shit really mattered, what do you think you would do at age 35 when literally everyone is fucking each other who is single? You think at 35 you'll find an innocent pure girl? Not unless you're a fucking pedo.
At 35, a man reaches peak attractiveness. A girl reaches peak attractiveness by 18. A 35 year old man who dates a 35 year old woman is a complete loser.
I'm not even talking about "pure", I told you I'm not an incel... I'm talking about a woman that agrees with you that you are not at fault for having retroactive jealousy. Someone that agrees she was disgusting in her past, that is different. There are plenty of women out there that only see how they got tricked into their degeneracy when they are older.
And that is how you can overcome it eventually, that's how I did. By having a partner that agrees with me.
>shes been with 11
>been with only 5
dude, the gap is very insubstantial
i think you need to rationalize the situation a little bit
she has to come to terms with you running your hands all over, kissing and tasting, holding FOUR other people close, your flesh becoming one. she has to think about you giving your body to someone other than her in the most intimate terms. the thought of someone else making your face red, making you moan and release yourself in an intensely vulnerable way with another person who isnt her. how could she ever overcome you having sex with FOUR whole people?
i dont blame you for feeling icky. thats perfectly normal and natural. you SHOULDNT like the thought of her fucking other people if youre in a monogamous relationship, id be concerned if you werent bothered by thinking about other people fucking her. but thats the good thing. you dont HAVE to think about it. shes also had wildly horrendous diahrrea. you cant change this fact. but it doesnt change that you love her. dwell on the good things, accept the past and distinguish it from the present, and dont expect yourself to come around on icky details, but come around on her. shes your love, so love her
OP, my partner is my first (I’m talking like first kiss first) and he’s been with literally 80 females and dated 7 of them. It kills me when I think about it but at the end of the day I love them more than anything. You can only focus on the future and be happy. Plus you were with five people any way so it’s not that big of a difference.
good advice
its normal bro. nearly every guy has this worry and insecurity
its fucking engrained in our dna to be territorial like that
You posted an OCD psychology picture, why are you asking about body count.
My gf and I have both only been with one other person but she off handedly mentioned a sexual experience she had with him and I still get caught in this cycle thinking about it and it fucks me up. She tells me she's never felt the way I make her but I dunno if I can manage to keep that thought and the image of her with him in my head and believe. She's really honest but how do I know she's not just lying to me, she told me she faked orgasm for him and didn't even know what they felt like but all of that could be bullshit to sooth my ego since she wants to get very serious with me.
I have no solutions
Why is she talking about previous sexual experiences with her current boyfriend? Moreover, why are you tolerating it?
this is the best advice. i've been through something similar with my bf, knowing he was in the process of kinda pursuing a girl before we met. still can make me feel a bit insecure if i let it. but if you let that insecurity get in the way of your happiness, it can really poison a relationship. try to value the present and future of you two together more than the past, before they knew you existed and what you had to offer
I was asking her a dumb specific sexual question like "Have you ever fucked on the floor" and she answered that yes but it started in the shower. That seems like good sex to me, and that doesn't gel with what she was telling me and now I'm looking for any other inconsistencies. Admittedly she knew she fucked up and was really upset about it and I've told her about sexual experiences I've had before her without thinking.
you should probably just sit down and be open about it, try to really calmly tell her that personally you just don't really feel comfortable hearing details about a past relationship bc it hurts
Ok. If she had just been outright bragging about her past to you unprompted then it would be different. There was a thread about that a few weeks ago on here and everyone told the guy to dump the girl.
Asking these questions never ends well...personal experience here too
you're mad at her and looking for reasons to distrust her and completely sabotage what could be a good relationship, when you're the one who asked the question
Yes. I know it's dumb and hypocritical since between the two of us I had a much more wild sexual past. She asked once about weird places I've had sex and I foolishly told her when her ex hardly ever fucked her and always in the same position and never even ate her out. I'm introducing her to a lot of sexual experiences, like she had never changed positions or had someone try to last longer than a couple minutes because making her cum was "too much work"
Maybe talking to this extent about past shit was a mistake but by all rights I'm doing really well and I have nothing to worry about but there's this nagging insecurity that fucks up my mood and I hate it
do you feel like it's a confidence issue or a possessiveness issue? although those two could be related maybe. look i definitely understand where you're coming from, but from what it sounds like you treat her really well and you should be confident in that and know she is really happy to have found you, if anything you should be proud of yourself rather than insecure
This is why you save yourself for marriage. It has nothing to do with memes degenerates tell themselves, like
>"oh, so a girl can't have sex unless it's with YOU, huh incel?"
Waiting until marriage means people save themselves for the *ideal* of commitment, while they still exercise full control over who to share it with.
As it stands now, you have repeatedly jumped into a cesspit because someone told you there was a ring in there, and now you're whining about the stench. You made your bed, retard.
Kind of a dumb thing to worry about.
not sure what you're expecting on Dab Forums
That's the kind of stuff she says and I'm really trying to believe it. She's perfect and I guess I'm just getting used to being in a relationship like this one. Thanks, and I'll try to be less of a weirdo about stuff, I don't want to sabotage this.
Children I can plant the first seed of the thousand required to realise "Thats a dumb thing to worry about." Making what tiny difference I can.
you are very welcome, best of luck to you both. learning to trust can be difficult but it is one of the greatest things a longterm relationship provides
Again, when a woman cheats on a man, he's the cuck, even through he fucked her first.
All jealousy is for bitches in all contexts. If your girlfriend is a slut that's another matter.
5 is a lot. You are a whore, be happy with your fellow whore.