>tfw my bf puts very little emphasis on how good I am to him, and far more importance on flaws or mistakes that are either minor or completely imaginary >tfw he holds grudges forever and brings up minor incidents from years ago whenever I make him angry >tfw I feel as though I'm always walking on eggshells with him >tfw he tells me that if I don't want to listen to a barrage of complaints and criticisms, I'm an avoidant that doesn't care about conflict resolution and only has a superficial level of care for others >tfw I feel as though I can't share anything personal or sensitive with him because even if he acts kindly at the moment, he'll use things against me at a later date >tfw arguing with him is stressful because he gaslights, strawmans, and is incredibly aggressive, yet makes me feel compelled to do so because otherwise I don't care about conflict resolution, am avoidant, and would rather leave him to stew in his own juices than try to make him feel better >tfw I feel feverish and get a headache when I think he might be getting mad >tfw during arguments he strikes at all my traumas and insecurities, but tells me I have no right to get mad because his tone is calm, more like a disappointed father than an angry psycho >tfw
well you don't seem to be in denial over the abuse, so obviously he's doing something right. does he have a really big dick or what? if you really value it that much then stick around.
Nathan Davis
You could stay with him long enough to get knocked up and waste your 20's and 30's being a nervous wreck in your own home while raising his babies
Christian Smith
been there. you already know what the fuck to do. leave
Evan Moore
Break up
Caleb Cruz
Huh, you think he's abusive?
Parker Brooks
You already know the answer, don't you? Leave him as fast as you can and cut all contact
Nathan Murphy
when you make that leap of faith and leave your life will only get better. do it and do it fast
Aiden Phillips
You’re such a dumb slut, start valuing yourself. Don’t pretend you don’t think all the shit you’ve written out in aggressive detail isn’t abusive. Now you’re just trying to get fawned over
Anthony Thompson
>does he have a really big dick? if she fails to do anything about it, then pretty much this
Noah Bennett
well the thing is there's long periods where he's fine. he'll be fine and a great guy for 3-6 months, but then he'll turn into a monster for a month or two whenever I make him angry somehow, then his anger slowly abates and he's himself again. My ability to fully trust him weakens after each bad spell, though (of which we've had 4-5 so far, each lasting a month to two months)
Chase Howard
As was said, leave and cut contact. Simple.
Landon Evans
Sounds like your bf has some kind of underlying issue or lacks necessary social skills. You could try working on it with him, or therapy for both of you, or just bite the bullet and leave.
Charles Gutierrez
are you daft? that's not lack of social skills. that's someone so good at this that he can even persuade anons on the internet he's never met to defend his abuse.
Mason Sanders
its the psychological masculinity he probably has its very important for women
Matthew Russell
OP stated >"my bf puts very little emphasis on how good I am to him, and far more importance on flaws or mistakes that are either minor or completely imaginary, holds grudges forever and brings up minor incidents from years ago whenever I make him angry, he gaslights, strawmans, and is incredibly aggressive" It is obvious that he is abusive to an extent and social skills is a broad term that can range from being able to read a room to navigating a conversation/argument in a mature manner. Social skills does not mean that the bf of OP does something and OP says it online where a bunch of 4chiners approve of his actions bc of their own bias.
You claim that I'm daft yet you are the one who has failed to read what is in front of him.
Gabriel Wood
>that's someone so good at this that he can even persuade anons on the internet he's never met to defend his abuse. Hate to break it to you user, but that doesn't take any skill at all. OP literally could have written that he rapes her every night and some people would still be defending him.
>m-m-muh abuse You're all retarded. OP is a dumb neurotic bimbo. She should STFU and make her bf a sandwich. Give him a massage. Fondle his testicles. You know, typical ways to calm a man down, like the good slut that she is.
Xavier Ward
Leave him, and stay safe in case his abusive behaviors turn physical. No one deserves this kind of treatment. Doesn’t matter how “good” he is when he is “himself” again.
tl;dr: FUCKING RUN
Nathan Reed
>abuse Maybe OP has serious flaws and her boyfriend is pointing them out so that she may improve. Ever thought about that?
Samuel Scott
That's not how you point out "serious flaws". Your girlfriend shouldn't feel unsafe to confide serious issues in you. He clearly isn't treating her with respect.
Aaron Cruz
>his tone is calm, more like a disappointed father than an angry psycho The reason why OP feels "unsafe" is because she knows her bf is right. She actually feels ashamed, not unsafe. You only know her side of the story. In fact, you don't really know shit about either of them. Repeating "break up" and "he's abusive" like a broken record is retarded. OP has some introspecting to do.
Connor Cook
come to me baby i'll treat ya right
John Stewart
I can only assume he must be fantastic in bed because you offer no other reason for being with him at all.
Logan Phillips
>What do? If I were you I'd LARP on Dab Forums about how bad my life is, so I can feed my delusions and farm sympathy for problems that aren't real.
Leo Watson
cringe
Lucas Sullivan
>If I were you I'd LARP on Dab Forums about how bad my life is, so I can feed my delusions and farm sympathy for problems that aren't real. But that's exactly what she's doing lmao.
William Ramirez
assuming this isn't another fake bullshit story for attention
Get out of there. Living with someone like that can't be worth whatever the fuck he could possibly bring to the table.
Charles Rodriguez
This, tell a bitch her flaws and she'll yell abuse when in reality no one has gotten real on her ass. You're a person with bullshit too OP, so either you fix your shit and leave if you're not seeing results on his end or stay with him and shut the fuck up.
