Girl Help

Kek, what a slut. You dodged a bullet, never trust a female that casually goes out on dates like this with male friends. The “x” at the end of the text was a warning sign too

Things might have been different

Thanks user, thankfully I’m not seriously infatuated which probably helped me keep it together this long desu

Of course it's possible, that comes down to how much of a onions you are. If you are REALLY convinced you're ok with friends then no prob but if you're onions your're setting yourself up for a ride where YOU LOSE.

Not getting overinvested in women early on like this is going to save you a lot of heartache and frustration later on. What a lot of guys here fuck up with is that they dont "polarize" a woman early on, and make her decide if she sees you as romantic material or not. If she doesn't, you're only wasting time on her and you need to move on. Guys who dont do this fall into "the friend zone". What you've done here will help you with women later on.

Could be either or, but considering she matched with you I think she's interested in you

this

What man texts "hehe" and "x"

I think I’d keep it together, I haven’t seen her in years now though so who knows maybe I would onion hard in her company.
I hope that what’s happened won’t make it too awkward to be friends and I hope it doesn’t mean I have just cut off contact with her

This is sage advice. I’ve gotten properly obsessed over a girl before and really wound myself up bad

:,)

Yes. Just go and be her friend. You'll pretty much be an orbiter. I'd suggest against it, but if that's what you want, it's what you want.

Idk why I started using hehe, it felt like a happy compromise between lol and haha

I started using X because she was!

Thank you for your blessing

overall though its not your fault. you met on a dating app, she matched you and then she for some reason declined a date
like signing up for the army, consenting to go into Afghanistan then trying to quit with a Taliban gun on your head lmao

Oh shit I remember you fren from the OCD thread. Sorry about it with her but I kinda remember telling you it's not going to work out. You have to tell her you guys are not going on a walk as friends but people romantically and erotically interested in each other.

Yeh, I could be forgiven for getting my hopes up lol

And do you know what, even though it ended a little disappointingly, I’m still super glad i got to experience the excitement. And super proud that I didn’t get totally consumed by it

You have to be a dyke

>I actually care more about making friends than having sex
If you really have a thing for masochism go for it.

Holy shit hi again user. Yeah you called it.

I’m friendly with her best friend too so maybe I can third wheel

I am a sensitive young man

Not much else relationship wise going on so at least it’s something. Catharsis

There we go, a happy ending.

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>hehe

No wonder she doesn't wanna fuck you, christ.

good job you made a friend and she could introduce you to her friends. don't listen to these incels

She's gonna make you her simp. "platonic" friendships are when there isn't romantic/sexual interest. Not when she's clearly aware you're trying to get in her panties and will use it to her advantage. What the fuck will you even be talking about, her dates?
Stop debasing yourself like that. Leave her on read and get back on tinder to match up with girls who see you as a romantic and sexual being and not an emotional tampon who they can mislead to boost their egos

Thank you user stay based

She doesn’t get dicked she takes coronavirus restrictions very seriously

I’m going to start using teehee

To be honest user I have no idea what we’d talk about but truth is I’m kind of lonely and hanging out with people local to me would be nice.

>I am a sensitive young man
Respect. Yeah the last sentence typo is confusing. If you want to hit it off I'd take it slow and just hang out. If you're not good at texting (and I'm not either so I understand) just don't text as much and don't text back immediately. Wait about 30-1hr before responding.

I see where you’re coming from user, idk what the real prospects of a platonic walk are because as you said she might still think I just want to sleep with her.

I’m only going to do things that add value to my life - orbiting doesn’t add value, don’t worry I’ve got this bro

Get the fuck back on tinder. Listen, I'm not trying to shit on your parade. I just know how it goes. She knows that you want more, you know that you want more. You're not friends. There's gonna be an emotional cloud whether you like it or not, and she will take advantage of you for that because people love feeling desired, especially if they know you want them.
Don't become an orbiter for her OP, be better than this. You can make friends with girls who you don't want to fuck. Imagine if you become """good friends""" and she started dating another dude she met on tinder. You might think now that it won't bother you, but I assure you that it will crush your soul.

Dermatologist told be yesterday that I have lots of testosterone

I find myself putting off a reply just because I overthink what the right thing to say is. Interestingly she almost always replies pretty much instantly

>she takes coronavirus restrictions very seriously
that just means they do it doggy style

Maybe it would hurt user, maybe it would.

I definitely feel much more ready to jump back on tinder. I’ve got a couple dozen likes and about 50 (ancient and I messaged) matches so there’s that.

Trouble is most people I match with live 50 miles away

Just fuck her best friend then. You probably will ironically kick it off with her because you won't care as much

>Imagine if you become """good friends""" and she started dating another dude she met on tinder.
This happened in high school to me. Became a fucking simp for this girl, even though my friend told me I was simping for her. It’s been over 3 years (senior now), but god I still hate myself for ever being that foolish.

It's okay my friend. We all make mistakes and learn from them. The best we can do is pass on our painful knowledge to other men so they hopefully know better.

I know friend. She was a druggy anyway (pot, ecstasy, etc) and we wouldn’t have gotten along. But fuck me man, the feelings felt so real.

I’ve had feelings for girls three different times in high school and every time we end up not talking for months or years. Fuck me man

Her best friend is a delightful person, and someone told me she might’ve had a bit of a crush on me, but I don’t find her attractive.

>If I had just said the right combination of words at this and only this point, she would fucked me!
Nah dude. She decided some time ago that wasn't gonna happen, you just uncovered it. And this is fine just move onto the next one. Ya can't 100% life

Yo why the fuck does everyone end their sentences with an x?

I'm non-burger btw

Based af. The sooner a guy learns this advice the sooner he can prevent ever being an orbiter or simp even if his intentions are to fuck. Face the rejection head on early and it’ll do wonders to your wisdom in dating

It’s a British thing it’s a friendly kiss x

You didn't do anything wrong here, she just wasn't interested. Not much you can do about that

It's what low-IQ people in the UK do to avoid seeming passive aggressive

What does the x mean??

Reading this thread, several people correctly say to dump her and move on.
But I would add to that that you should still go.
A platonic walk with a girl is the exact same as a date where you don't hit it off.
So go on the date and learn whatever you can. Don't actually whip out a pen and take notes, but mentally take notes of everything anyway.

The key here is that you don't text girls often and this is what you need to change.
The problem most guys have in that situation is you can't get started so once you do get started, you don't know where to go with it.
You can mimic some of her behavior, but don't overdo it. I would suggest dropping you the "hehe x" stuff and just emojis instead. Girls love that shit for some reason. It doesn't seem to be something you do, so get a "catalog" of 20ish different ones to rotate between.
Girls want funny, intelligent, confident and honest conversations, so use this girl to learn to sneak this into your conversations.
Plan this walk to the best of your ability.
What are some good questions you could ask her, what would you use this information for if she doesn't feel like answering in long sentences at first.
Generally, FORD is good(family, occupation, recreation and dreams) it at least get you started talking, but in my experience, talking about riskier topics is way better as you get to know people faster and it leads to more interesting conversations.
My first date with my gf started with safe topics for 30 minutes over a milkshake but then we went for a walk and started talking about religion, meaning of life and what our upbringing was like. I think we even talked about kids too.
But learning to listen and have a good conversation doesn't need a girl to be romantically interested in you. So go on the "date" and learn. Then find someone else and go on a real date with her.
Then eventually go on a date where she likes you.

Usually, it means kiss, but who the fuck knows with this girl.

What's wrong? You were forwards, she is not interested. Would you have preferred to go on a couple 'walks' only to be let down when you make your interests knows? Be happy that you haven't wasted your time.

Holy shit your text convos are resident sleepers. You sound like the typical dude walking on egg shells just happy she keeps replying.

Talk like a fucking normal person. Stop typing up full sentences like a retard.

I mean I was planning to talk like a normal person on the walk and then text more casually after that, she types like a retard Too, by your standards

Sorry for being disappointed bro

what, you think every girl will want to date you? get over yourself

You think I don’t have the right to feel disappointed?

you have every right to be miserable. Why would you want to be though?

I dont, I’ve already moved on bro, but There’s nothing wrong with feeling something

xD

>being this fucking nice
You only have yourself to blame

Ask for the date within 8 messages user.

>women
>friend
These two things don’t go together

Holy fucking shit dude.
First off, who the fuck takes a month to set up a date especially when you met on fucking Tinder? Jesus christ. You should of made your intentions pretty straight forward from your first initial conversations.
Also, unless you have something to actually say and talk about for the love of fuck don't become a girl's texting buddy. If you have to sit there and think for more than three seconds "wow, what should I text her back today?" then don't. You are trying to take girls on dates, find romantic partners, not turn into a penpal. Save 90% of your conversation when you are on a date. Use texting unless you have something genuine to actually say OR to set up a date,
There's nothing wrong with being friends with women honestly, but you don't go on Tinder to make friends and that fact that you had to wait a month to hear her basically shoot you down is sad. Move on, friendo.

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block asap

why though? I am not really a believer that men and women can't be friends, but if you matched on tinder why would you want to be platonic friends w/ her?

dont befriend her

OP here, This is good advice. I asked her out on the walk early on, then she had a few excuses that delayed it for weeks. I didn’t make it clear it was a date when I asked but I thought that was implied because, yeah, I matched her on tinder and had already asked her to go for coffee.

> Save 90% of your conversation when you are on a date. Use texting unless you have something genuine to actually say OR to set up a date,
Thankfully I haven’t spent much texting for this reason. I was saving it for the date. It’s pretty hard to text meaningfully when they’re basically just an acquaintance.

I knew this girl before matching her - I’m trying to make new friends and she’s local so if a fruitful friendship developed I don’t see anything wrong with that

You already played your hand expressing that you liked her in more than a platonic way, that isn't a good sign. You can still be friends but she'll always think of you as an orbiter unfortunately. That's the reality of the situation.