How to let go?

I had a fantasy once of a loving relationship. Growing old together with her. My relationship over 5 years with my fiance however has devolved to the point where we are basically roommates. She's not affectionate anymore, we haven't had sex in a year. Anytime I bring up sex she changes the subject. We have no common interests, in music, movies, politics, life views. I stopped mentioning talks of having kids and have moved on from the idea. On Valentine's Day I tried to rekindle things yet she ignored me completely and I eventually gave up. I felt so lonely on Valentine's Day I almost texted for an escort even though shes in the other room.

Yet the other day she asks "When are we getting married?" and I looked at her perplexed like... really? She still says she loves me and wears the ring I gave her. She posts pictures of me on her Instagram. Yet in real life she doesn't talk to me. Won't touch me. She sits in bed all day staring at Tik Tok. Up to this point I have remained loyal in this """relationship""".

If I am honest with myself, in the past we were both broke and needed each other to help pay rent. Now thats no longer the case I have a job well enough to pay it all, however she still makes minimum wage. I have tried to help her over 5 years financially but shes racked up 10's of thousands in debt, while I have saved close to 50k and no debts.

I feel bad to abandon her after 5 years but I feel emotionally she has abandoned me long ago. It now also makes no sense financially to saddle myself in debts for a sexless marriage.

How do I let go? She legitimately would not be able to afford any rents here without me. I don't know where she would go. I feel bad but I also feel like she should no longer be my burden. Help me Dab Forums.

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Cut your losses desu. I'm feeling similar to you user and I wish someone told me to cut my losses too, and not be afraid of the future.

shows absolute character to remain loyal under such circumstances. do not deprive yourself of a happy future by commiting to someone who doesn't appreciate you. don't feel bad either if you have to end it, because from the sounds of it, it is the right thing to do.

Relationship therapy

>If I am honest with myself, in the past we were both broke and needed each other to help pay rent.
Imbecile. This needed saying.

>together for 5 fucking years
>still not married (and not because you don't believe in marriage, since you say you're engaged)
>moving in together out of convenience, not commitment
Dude seriously, you're both a bunch of morons. You're in a toxic relationship. She's bad for you and you are bad for her. The only reason you're still in this """"relationship"""" is fear, not care or even pity.

>She legitimately would not be able to afford any rents here without me. I don't know where she would go.
This is bullshit. It comes across as insincere as fuck. You don't care about her, just like she doesn't really care about you. You simply don't want to come across as a bad person. This is vanity, not charity. Wise up kid. Fucking tell her everything you told us, and break up. It's not working out between you too. And next time don't fornicate. And don't move in together with someone you're not certain you want in your life until you kick the bucket.

You can't fix something that doesn't exist. OP hasn't been in a relationship for a long while now. LMAO, they're not even talking to each other. This is straight out of some fucked up comedy skit.

Aye.

No she could only realistically afford $600 a month in rent due to her car payments, school debt, credit cards etc. Rents here start at $1200. I bought a home with a low interest so the payment is only $900. I would be fine. She wouldn't make it. I've done the math.

Bro I'll be honest, life is too short to play games and wait around for people to get their shit together.

That's a big factor. Also that she doesn't listen. She has traded in her new car twice already and owes 60k on something worth 12k. Can't help her if she won't listen.

Bro you're dating a fucking child. You don't even get sex out of it. Why do you bother?

It's better to be alone than with someone who's a drain.

You're absolutely right. I just needed someone to tell me it also. Thanks user.

>I almost texted for an escort even though shes in the other room.

This is a mortal sin against the Sixth Commandment. "No adultery." Sin makes your life miserable, and furthermore, Valentine's day has nothing to do with fleeting human emotions. It is a holy day dedicated to Saint Valentine, who was martyred for his faith in Christ. This holy day was appropriated by secularist goyim to be the strange celebration it is now because Saint Valentine cured the blindness of a daughter of some guard that he was talking to. Valentine then sent a letter to this girl/lady, referring to himself in the closing as, "your Valentine."

You should have instead gone to Mass on Sunday to be with the Person that loves you more than anyone else.

Godspeed, my dude. I'm in the similar situation as yours, but my gf at least is very hardworking and smart, on par with myself career wise. So for me it's a lot harder to just let her go.

I doubt yours is as poor financially as mine. Theres literally no hope for mine now unless I bail her out with most of my savings.

>You should have instead gone to Mass on Sunday to be with the Person that loves you more than anyone else.

Jesus? I might. How do I reconcile with all the abominations and evil allowed to exist such as cancer etc? The original sin excuse doesn't quite cut it for me.

Not your problem retard
Dump and go

All evil is permitted by God so that a greater good may occur. We do not see the future, but all of this evil occurs not outside of God's control. Therefore, what you may see as evil, in the long run may actually be the best path to ensuring the greatest good. In war, countries sacrifice their men on the battlefield in the hope that the war may end, and the country will be better off for the sacrifices made. But even if the country ends up worse off, perhaps God has designed it to be in such a way so that a greater good may occur for those people.

Do not assume that you ever know better than God.

Interesting answer no one has been able to answer that question for me.

I have another question. What does God want from us? Were we created to simply worship? Is it all for his ego? If so how is that an ideal situation?

I would also like to add that, even in the face of this evil world, we believe this world will come to an end, and Heaven will be our final, eternal destination. The time of evil that has been permitted for the human existence on this earth will seem as nothing in comparison to eternity in the Beatific Vision.

God simply wants us to love Him, His saints, and His Law. These are the Ten Commandments, and they were given to us by Moses. The Ten Commandments not only bring us closer to God, but to our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ. They protect us not only spiritually, but also materially, as breaking the Ten Commandments tends to have consequences. Therefore, we were created by God to learn how to love with His Law. Salvation is just an open book test that gives you all of the answers you need so that you not only do not hurt yourself in this life, but also your neighbor. And then ultimately, cultivating this love in your heart is enough to get you to Heaven.

Thanks user I will reflect on this

God be with you and your friend.

if you havent married her after 5 years you never will so do the right thing and let her move with another man

Different user here. I think I would add that the reason that there is evil in the world is because of the fall of man. Because of man's sinful nature, we had to be separated from God, which includes pain and suffering.

She she might be cheating on you and becoming divorced from reality in dealing with it.