Husband wants to try new things in bed

So my husband and I have good sex. I always end up having multiple orgasms, but I am only able to orgasm in missionary position. The higher my legs go up, the better the orgasm feels. I’m only able to orgasm while masturbating in missionary position too, but lying on my back and humping a pillow. This was the way I learned to orgasm even before I lost my virginity.

I do other positions, with my husband, like doggy style, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, etc, but I can’t get off in those positions. I do it for my husband even though I don’t enjoy it at all. I don’t even enjoy receiving oral. It just leaves me feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated. When we have sex, we start in missionary first so I can get off, and then we’ll switch things up.

My husband confronted me today and asked if we could try new things sexually, but I haven’t really considered it as I have mind blowing orgasms just from missionary, and I already do stuff like doggy style and being on top for him, so what other positions are out there we could do to “spice up” our sex life?

He had said he’s curious to try anal, as he’s never done it before, but the idea of that really weirds me out (especially since I suffer from a lot of stomach problems).

Basically, my husband said he doesn’t want us to do missionary for the rest of our lives, as sex is more than just achieving orgasms, but I haven’t really thought about these things. Honestly, I don’t really enjoy sex overall. I enjoy achieving orgasms, but I hate putting in the effort. I don’t know if that’s because of a low sex drive or not.

Thoughts? Opinions? What else is really out there for us to explore sexually? I don’t want to be boring in bed.

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Also I used to love when my husband sucks on my tits, but now I either don’t feel anything, or it just feels annoying.

I have been on birth control for the past 6-7 years, so I wonder if this is gradually destroying my sex drive. I would get off of birth control but it’s the only thing that has cured my cystic acne and I’m terrified my acne will come back if I stop.

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That lack of acne is because of your stifled hormones. Get off the pill and just see what happens. Maybe you'll get the sex drive without the acne

Yeah but cystic acne was really bad and really painful. I’m terrified at it coming back.

Your husband has a dick that's curved upwards so Missionary is the best position for you

>Honestly, I don’t really enjoy sex overall. I enjoy achieving orgasms, but I hate putting in the effort
"I like the reward but I don't like putting in the work"
Kek.

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> I haven’t really considered it as I have mind blowing orgasms just from missionary

I got mine and that's it. Typical female behaviour. Why does my husband suddenly not want to do all the work??!?!

Nah, I don't think its a gender/sex specific trait, just a toxic-ish trait. It's like people don't actually think about the other person in the relationship anymore.

NTA. I agree it’s not gender specific but it is much more common with women

Talk to your doctor dumb bitch

>I enjoy achieving orgasms, but I hate putting in the effort.
You'll get stronger and longer lasting orgasms if you put in the effort. Sex is a discipline and it takes practice and dedication before it starts to give its real rewards.

>The higher my legs go up, the better the orgasm feels
my wife is the same way, though she can have orgasms in doggy if i push her head down on the bed and her hips and torso as low as they can go, basically a japanese dogeza position
>but the idea of that really weirds me out
my wifes favorite position for anal is on her back, her ankles hooked over my shoulders, her ass in the air held up by my hands and her legs on my shoulders. in that position my penis pushes against the wall between her vagina and ass, towards the front of her body, and right in front of my penis on the other side of that wall is her g-spot. you can't get to it from the vagina with the penis because the pelvic bone is in the way, but you can from the ass because of the change in angle of attack allows you to come in from the side of it.
>i wonder if this is gradually destroying my sex drive
it is. the pill is a seductive curse for women, it frees them up to whore themselves as much as they want, but destroys their desire to actually do it.

Try pegging him.

It’s not that I don’t want to put in the effort. I just have a tendency to get overwhelmed about everything, including sex. My mind constantly feels scatterbrained, and it’s energy draining. I have trouble putting in effort with everything else in my life only because I feel mentally overwhelmed.

Sometimes I wonder if I suffer my adhd or depression and that’s why I’m like this way

>I have been on birth control for the past 6-7 years, so I wonder if this is gradually destroying my sex drive.
Your sexual experiences would improve vastly if you got off that and stayed off it a while. You'd probably have better moods too.

read Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski. this is a classic bedroom issue for women. your sex drive is hitting the brakes and gas at the same time.

she just needs a good solid buttfucking.

Then talk to a doctor/shrink, fix your problem, and stop whining about it on 4chins

>My mind constantly feels scatterbrained, and it’s energy draining.
The big effort for you then will be working on maintaining awareness of being present with your husband. He's already expressed that you'd like to put effort into more exciting sex, but its fair to expect better effort in return, and not just in bed. He needs to put his effort in proper foreplay, an all day effort on the male's part since women have a more complex process of arousal. Men only have like 4 stages to arousal while women have about 9. The more aroused a person is the more they're focused solely on having sex. That means by the time you do the deed, you're not thinking about anything else.

Read that and maybe also look into one of those silly, cheap sex position books on amazon.