I just turned 20
Why do I feel like it's already too late for me even though I'm young?
I just want to feel like I deserve to love myself, I'm so tired
I just turned 20
this is the collective feeling of our generation due to our environment which is hyper focused on youth. See through the facade and take advantage of the fact that others are wasting their youth thinking they are already too old.
Most people who "love themselves" have people in their life who love them, be it friends, family, or long term romantic partners. Just saiyan.
I just turned twenty and feel exactly the same. I’m in a degree I’m not passionate about and just floating, barely making through. I feel empty
>Why do I feel like it's already too late for me even though I'm young?
Because you're young and stupid, and were lead to believe this nonsense. Your life is just getting started in the grand scheme of things, don't leave it on autopilot and take the steering wheel.
Yep. 22 and feel the same. Have a great degree and just no motivation or drive to really find my passion.
I think it's a sign you're on the wrong path. That you understand if you continue what you're doing then your 20s will be wasted.
I felt like this too OP, and now, 23, things are the same, but my vision of the world has changed, I became more cynical and bitter but at the same time I learnt to seek happiness.
It's all in your head op, be water, dont think about moving mountains, watch you steps and every now and then take a peek at the whole ladder
Forget about it instantly
U are way too young to be worrying about being old lol
People who are 35,40 onward would be in hysterics hearing what you just said
Damn bro I’m 25 and I would love to get a rewind to 20, being 20 you’re still fresh as fuck. As FUCK.
Bros my dad literally refuses to help me with what to do in life. He just tells me we have lots of money and any day now the fucking ice age will come (he’s being serious) and I won’t need a job or career. I fucking hate him with a passion and no idea what to do in life.
What this guy says. 20 to 23 is still super young. People are barely graduating from college at this age and most still look like they're 18. I feel old at 28, but at the same time I wonder if I won't feel the same way about being 28 when I'm 40.
Most people don't have their dad tell them what to do, at least not in the (((west))). So that's your problem and not his.
You would be correct if I knew that from the start. Instead I was gaslighted for years and now suddenly it’s come to fruition that he won’t help me like he promises.
Kids are impressionable, yeah. Your dad sounds like a real oddball. It's time for you to take the wheel. Maybe there's some small credence to what he says, as is usually the case in most schizoid ramblings. He's telling you that you don't have to go out and survive on your own in le world. You can depend on him if you need it, which is nice. We're always entering a new era. They come and go very fast.
He’s a very good dad and has always pushed us to be the best. I was the strongest and fastest kid in high school. Graduated valedictorian because of him pushing me. Suddenly when it comes to money he has to make all of it. It think it is very personal for him because of childhood trauma. It just fucking pisses me off I’ve worked so hard and now fucking what? Just brushes me aside and leaves me to play fucking Xbox all day. I don’t even have my fucking driver’s license yet because he doesn’t see a rush to get it since he can take me where I need to go.
And I don’t hate him. I’m just frustrated I shouldn’t have said that
Pick yourself up and get out there right now. Tell your dad you appreciate that he has your back but you need to make sure you’re capable on your own. If he’s a real man he’ll understand that, respect it even.
You are 20. You are in a brilliant position. Get yourself going on everything. Get a job get your license and then get your own place or something.
Seriously, don’t think about it, just do. You’ll thank yourself in no time. In 3 months, you’ll look back and think damn I really got all this done
Thanks bro. World is so strange and I don’t know what to do anymore. Just needed to vent.
You’ll also learn in the process how young you actually are because of how much you can get done in a short time
Then get your driver's license. Get driving lessons if he won't let you use his car.
I understand your frustration though. It sounds like he fostered a strong dependence on him but he has stopped pushing you further and now you're left to motivate yourself.
Thanks for yalls advice bros. We don’t have a lot of money especially after this COVID bull suit which is why I know this is a personal thing for him. We’re fucking barely scraping by. You guys are right. Time to put my foot down and be a man.