>there are still a lot of aspects which you have zero control over, e.g. height, dick size or face.
Sadness is less attractive than shortness.
"Work on yourself and the girls will come automatically"
Aiden Hill
Connor Hernandez
Having muscles and low body fat, and dressing well, makes women 1000x more receptive. Pretending otherwise is a cope. I’m friends with a chad guy and it’s like shooting fish in a barrel for him.
Adrian Morgan
i think it really only helps people that can't get girls because of shitty confidence/bad lifestyle etc. if you're somebody that isn't a 2/10 and just struggle with confidence i think "just work on yourself bro" increases your confidence/happiness and therefore it will translate into you attempting to get girls, if you try.
Gavin Jenkins
Do both. Be happy and swole.
Austin Harris
>What you're doing is curing yourself of an infectious disease, the infectious disease being a shitty self-hating mindset
How would you go about "curing" something like that? You can't just pretend to like yourself when you don't.
Asher Taylor
Absolutely not. You have to approach people/do online dating/expand your social group. If you do nothing, expect nothing. Don't end up like me.
Bentley Johnson
>How would you go about "curing" something like that?
Firstly, stop feeling sad because of no gf, gfs are a fucking meme and that traps you in a self-hating mindset because you'll never get what you want.
Secondly, objectively evaluate which of your trait(s) are worthwhile and which are shit. For the shit ones, acknowledge they exist but focus on other things. For the worthwhile ones, appreciate them.
Thirdly, once you have a rational idea of what part(s) of you have value and worth, choose to believe in those parts, and feel good about yourself for having those parts.
Once you've developed a sense of self-worth, practice it. Constantly. Old habits are hard to break and you must constantly choose to think positive thoughts about yourself and feel positive emotions about yourself.
It'll take about 3 weeks to 2 months to break your old mental habits and re-train new ones, in this time you must be constantly using your willpower to choose the thoughts and emotions you'd prefer to have.
Once you've done that, you'll be used to having a positive mindset and it should reinforce itself. Keep practicing anyway though.
Brody Rivera
When people say this, they mean creating a better version of yourself and implementing it into social environments.
Like, do shit to build confidence / attractive send and take a step forward to put yourself out there. Confidence is an aura that women pick up on, just like insecurity.
Take two guys in a room full of women. One is confident, focused on himself and could really give a shit wether or not any of those women like him. The other is really insecure, out of touch with who he might be as a person and feels like he really wants their attention. The first guy wins every time.
Tyler King
A bit of both. If you are fat, needy and without skills people will not like you very much. If you work on yourself more and focus on others less they will like you better. But that doesn't mean that they will knock down your front door and show up in your room. You will still need to make contact.
Nicholas Myers
Can't expect a 10/10 to walk up to you.