how to stop feeling guilty and ashamed all the time whole life?
How to stop feeling guilty and ashamed all the time whole life?
Anger and spite
Just stop caring.
how?
Is the problem guilt (you feel bad yourself about things you do) or shame (others are making you feel bad about things you do)?
The solutions are different.
both
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You have to determine when exactly you are ashamed. I don't believe you are ashamed "all the time", say when you take a shower or drink coffee. You need to identify the root of the issue to tackle it.
Guilt and shame are the result of hypersocialization combined with low self esteem. You are judging your actions from your group's perspective because you internalized either that you need them or that they will punish you for your actions. In the 21st century you most likely do not need people to ensure your survival. Learning to be self-reliant and developing a strong sense of identity will help you solve this. Ignoring common sense and opinions, ask yourself what are your beliefs, what do you like, who you are, etc. I do not care if you love MLP, own it. You also need to know why you hold those beliefs because you need to be certain of them. I guess you are a self-aware person so this should be easier for you.
my value is be good to other people
as long as somebody don't harm anybody, I don't care what they do
I wish all people were like this, because I do my best to be nice to people and help them, but they tend to judge me or disrespect me for the way I am (I am socially anxious and socially awkward and I made some mistakes in the past and they make fun of me and disrespect me)
Seems like you need some assertiveness skills. You can still be nice while being firm. If you are ashamed when they disrespect you, ask yourself why do you value their opinion? If you have been good to them then you fulfilled your value.
how to learn assertiveness skills?
my biggest problem is that I can't get relaxed, I can't stop giving a fuck, I am worrying about something all the time
hey user that was really helpful thank u
Stop doing stupid ass shit
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you need to start doing things that you enjoy. This could be anything fro drawing art to masturbating. Sound like im being a dick. in not. nor am I trolling. Doing things you enjoy and after there done saying to your self over and over this is nothing to be shamed of. Will eventually stick and you will start feeling this is so instead of just saying it. Its like locking your house you grab your keys, phone and belongings u wanna take look to see if you forgot anything then go lock the door. Its routine and with routine comes patterns with patterns the mind adapts and accepts it.
Recommend give this a try. and best wishes..
not trolling fucking fingers could not keep up with my mind .. Sorry
What if I can't enjoy anything? It seems like I lack something in brain that would let me enjoy things
Remove self from society
How?
What's stopping you. Money?
I suffer from major depression and everything fucking sucks! No bs or tolling. You just gotta fake it and eventually you will no longer need to fake it.. The body and mind take a very long time to change and you just Gott do.. Old saying fake it till you make it.. SADLY holds a lot of water. not an easy pill to swallow but its truth. just go do things that you think you enjoy and eventually it will become joyful. cold take years months or weeks but it will come and happen..