Probably. Our parents all fuck us up to some degree, as you will your kids should you have any. Honestly I still hold my parents partially responsible for most of my deficiencies. But once you reach a certain age, you do have a mature agency. You can make some major changes, and they will likely be neither easy not immediate, but continued efforts will produce results.
Once you've realized your maturity, you can blame your parents for who you have been, but not who you will be.
>move out
Not happening at my age, I live in a shithole, no one moves out or can move out at my age.
Thanks user, that's nice to read.
It's your parents fault for how you are raised, but who you were raised to be is not who you have to be.
I hate my father, mostly because he never was one. But in reality, he's just a mass of atoms which brought my mass of atoms into consciousness. I resent him, but I gain absolutely nothing by blaming a person who doesn't give a shit. If I tell him he's a bad father, that won't make him become a better father because he just doesn't care.
Once you realize that, you are free. You don't need to prove yourself to someone who never cared about you.
Plus, a lot of shitty fathers hate to see their kids grow up and become successful. You have to do that user. Be the person you want to become, not the person others have made you out to be.
No
Find a way to save money, get a job, and move out. If you can't move out, at least get a job first then invest your salary on the stock market.
>My father is mentally ill and screams every time something goes slightly wrong.
> he screamed for half an hour, constantly repeating it and also adding that I always do this sort of thing.
I'm not trying to discourage you from working on your problem, because I'll address your original question below. I mean this sincerely when I say that you should practice as much patience and understanding as possible with your parents (especially your dad). Screaming for that long over how to clean a pair of glasses is where neurosis starts to look like psychosis and he is probably even less capable of helping himself and improving his condition than you are. Try to look at him and see the traits you dislike about yourself. If you do this consistently you'll be impressed by what you begin to notice and the lessons you can learn. Lessons that will help you to be more patient and understanding with him and yourself.
Now to answer your OP. I again mean no discouragement in when I say this, but placing blame is a habit that isn't going to actually help you learn how to feel like a success (which I would mention has to be self-defined). What you blame will have power over you, not the explicit power parents have over the children who live with them, but the power to limit one's personal growth and ability to express oneself. Its not wrong to analyze and recognize the qualities and characteristics you might have behaviorally inherited from your parents or used to adapt to them, but the moment you begin to catharticly say "that's why I can't _____" or "that's why I'm no good" your analysis has become self-limiting and a crutch to the progress I feel that you would be more satisfied with.
Look dude are you hitting gym or doing exercises, get jack fit it will improve your confidence, even if it sound cheesy as fuck.
Then get any job, if it brings good and shelter to the table its worth it, but dont go for wage jobs like fastfood or HEB those places are fucking crab buckets.
And finnaly if you become successfull, come back to your parents house to tell them that they are horrible dipshits that will die in the nearest elderly asylum, kick the yo dad in the balls for extra points, that might give him a reason to scream for one hour straight.
How can your brother have better genetics than you?
Stop comparing yourself to your brother. Start comparing yourself to you yesterday. As long as you are better today than you were yesterday then you are successful. Life is a series of small decisions.
got a better dice roll