No friends

How do I cope for the rest of my life without friends?

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I have convinced myself that I am better off without friends. More time to myself, no worries about getting used or manipulated. No seeking for approval.

Life is way more comfy and simple without friends.

I see the other side of it too of course. It gets lonely sometimes.

How is your life? In what way would friends be helpful?

Super introvert here.

You need friends. You need people who you can trust.

This, you really do

It’s impossible to go it alone in life.

You need people who can support you when you need it and also just to run your thoughts by to get assurance that you’re making good decisions and that you’re getting things straight.

Honestly being by yourself opens you up to more chances of being manipulated and abused.

Workaholic or alcoholic perhaps. Seems like it happens a lot to single guys in their 20s once their friends get into relationships you become the "once a month drinking pal".
How do you cope?
Get a therapist and pretend they're your friend maybe? Online games? IRL: go out and practice talking to random people and see how they respond. We are social creatures.

How does one make friends outside of high school? Do I go to clubs for my hobbies and the like?

Hobbies will usually work. If you can bond over something with someone u can make a friendship.

You can always try hitting up old friends too. Old, solid friendships can be easy to reconnect.

Been an outcast ever since Kindergarden and around HS I completely lost the need for other people.

It wouldn't really but as you said I sometimes get lonely which I instantly regret feeling whenever i speak to other people

Why?

Don't you on the rare occasion get bored?

Internet is all I need and I have lots of fun by myself.

fair enough. What about sexual needs?

why can't you have friends?

Just don't click with others

No one in your life? Boring

Find other autists with the same autism flavor

It's not my interests that hold me back. i have terrible social skills and hate being around others

yep

Establish and accomplish goals.
*want
You need food, water, shelter, air. You WANT friends, sex, happiness, success, meaning. You're all taught to say you need these things, often intangible, to function, but you don't and ultimately no one can give you them. That's where the living and the doing and the trying comes in, which is how you get them.

>It's not my interests that hold me back. i have terrible social skills and hate being around others
Yeah find other autists like that

What kind of goals?

Where? I live in a small town in Britain? even other weird loners don't like talking to me

Im 31 and barely have close friends at this point. I barely talk to my own sisters because they’re all much older than me. A part of me wants to reconnect with friends I haven’t spoken to in a while, but I also don’t want to get too involved.

A lot of friends I’ve made, I’ve always known them as part of a circle, so I feel weird hanging out or chatting with certain friends 1-on-1. I feel more comfortable talking and hanging out with them as part of a group.

There are certain friends I do feel comfortable with 1-on-1, but only in small amounts. I also don’t initiate conversations, even though I crave talking to friends, but I guess that’s due to my social anxiety.

I crave the social aspect of friends, but I have never had a deep friendship or never had a “best friend”. Now during this pandemic, it’s hitting me how alone I really am.

The few friends I have, I don’t really want to be friends with anymore, because they’re the same as they were in high school, living with parents, working at deadend jobs, don’t drive, and have never dated. I just can’t relate to them anymore. A part of me wants to stay friends with them, because I long for the good times I did have with them years ago, playing video games, watching anime, going out to fun restaurants and karaoke in NYC, etc.

Basically, they’re people I enjoy fun outings with, but they’re not people I can talk about personal shit with, like dating or careers if that makes any sense. They’re people to enjoy activities with so I don’t have to enjoy those activities alone.

>Where? I live in a small town in Britain? even other weird loners don't like talking to me
Yeah probably need a city. No matter what kind of autist you are, you have many thousands of kindred spirits out there you can concern with. Because of your autism it’s just statistically more rare, but not 0.

More people=more chance you can meet a buddy

The point I’m making is, maybe I never had true “friends”, but I had people to hang out with to not feel lonely. Maybe you don’t need friends OP, but you should at least find people that you enjoy hanging out with. Despite my social anxiety and introverted persona, the loneliness catches up to you after awhile and it really feels like shit. Try to find people to socialize with, even if you don’t consider them “friends”.

I don't have autism though

>I don’t have autism though
>i have terrible social skills and hate being around others
You sure about that dawg?

My parents told me I didn't have it years ago and High functioning autists are meant have a special interest which I don't

>My parents told me I didn't have it years ago and High functioning autists are meant have a special interest which I don't
Terrible social skills=on the autistic spectrum. Maybe you have aspbergers but you def on the spectrum. Your parents prob have it too