> this that a dominance/alpha thing
No, he's pointing out something obnoxious people do to be polite and is telling you that if you think the movie is bad, and he thinks it isn't that's okay to disagree. You don't need to adjust your opinion to be more in line with his.
He's just noticing a pattern user.
Understood, but it's basically something I don't do to him and it pisses me off that even just fucking being nice is gonna yield that kind of shit from him
I'm sorry user, I understand where you're coming from. Maybe he's projecting something he see's other people do onto your behavior?
Try talking to him about it.
Eh, I've kinda noticed this in my gf and truthfully it does bother me a bit. Being polite is never a bad thing, but sometimes I can tell she's just agreeing with me to make me happy or something and while I appreciate the care I'd rather have an honest disagreement than dishonest agreement, know what I mean? So idk your specifics here but if he's like me he just doesn't want you to feel like you have to be something you're not or say things you don't actually believe for him. And I know opinions on a movie are a pretty minor way for this to express itself but if he's noticing it here he's noticed it elsewhere too.
>doormats aren't respected
You don't say.
get hanged
Chill out, sperg.
This OP. I wouldn't take my opinion as more than just another way too look at your circumstance, but you might get more out of being polite if you're just being politely honest when sharing your opinion. I would save that type of honesty when you are specifically addressing your relationship with him, such as sharing that you don't like being over-analyzed. When it comes to likes and dislikes with respect to his, such as the movie, I wouldn't worry about being polite or brutally honest.
One of my favorite things about relationships that I've noticed is that bring the things I dislike about myself to the front of my attention. It can happen by being directly told or by recognizing when I've projected my own problems onto my partner and reflecting upon them. It sucks in the moment, but its a real catalyst to find a better understanding of myself.
I knew a guy who was that type of insufferable, he'd try to psychoanalyse our whole social circle going by little more than their profile picture and present it as hard science. He grew out of that phase though so with any luck your boyfriend will do so as well.
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Do you happen to know the four-sides model/communication square by Schulz von Thun?
It depicts messages as innately carrying four different parts of interpretable information and factual information is only one of them.
Miscommunication arises easily when you want to convey one side but the listener interprets another.
Amateur psychoanalyticers have the tendency to hear messages primarily als self-revelation and will readily ignore what you're actually trying to tell them for what they think you revealed about yourself. I hope you can have a honest discussion about things and that everything will work out.
Good luck!
>They want to portray themselves as laid-back and funny but all they do is project negative energy and ‘psychoanalyze’ you
Yes. It’s because you make me mad for not dating me.